Working on a father of the bride speech can most times be a real challenge. The challenge itself is not that the speech would be too complicated or too long, but it’s how to manage things properly, how to express all important ideas and how to adjust the actual length of your speaking time.
There are key elements that will help you exactly in the quest to find out what’s the best way to achieve an all-in-one solution! As you already sense, it’s also about keeping a good balance between certain duties you have. It’s the need of acceptance: you have those tasks and to-dos, whether you agree or not. So then, an obvious solution is to let them come and solve them without hesitation.
Keep calm and just write
You need a calm heart and mind, we could even say you need to completely relax in the toughest moments too. By relaxing I am not endorsing the “go with the flow” or “I don’t care, I just do what I can” attitudes! What you need to be relaxed about is the process of doing whatever it is. The same applies to writing the speech’s text.
For the father of the bride speech, just like other wedding speeches, you need a clear and well-organized structure to go with. Once you’ve got the structure, you need to progressively write more and more until it’s enough.
But hey, what is the right bride’s father speech structure? Why do people present structures and contents differently? As we all know, there are different traditions – some widely accepted, and others kept only by smaller communities. In your case, you are the only person who knows which category you fall in – the one with the nationwide, statewide, citywide or just community-wide traditions. When there’s a dilemma and people aren’t certain, they prefer to ask around and respect some traditions that are commonly known to at least 20-30 people. These practices are all fine and helpful! If you keep asking around, and ask your family members, friends, barbecue buddies – whoever you want to ask – you can easily find out what people think is a tradition for your speech, and the wedding overall.
There are certain wedding traditions too, in which they might tell you the exact order of the speeches (thus you will know in advance that you’re the 1st, 2nd or maybe just 6th person speaking. It is important to know the set of “rules” by which you will determine the order of your own speech. If you don’t know what your daughter wants, you better ask her about the father of the bride speech. She can tell you exactly what she had in mind with her husband about this aspect. More